1. I'm a 22-year-old virgin and when I tell a guy I always get 1 of 2 reactions. Either they doubt me & think I'm lying or they get nervous/way too excited eager to help rid me of my affliction. My question is: what's the big deal? 2. Why do men need to cheat? I've read the scientific blogs how they go searching for what they're not getting but I don't believe its the whole truth. 3. As a virgin how long should I make the guy wait beside the obvious make sure you love him & he's not pressuring me.
So, thanks for the ask. I will answer each of these in order:
- Guys are idiots who want to ‘conquer’ you. They obviously don’t care about you in the way somebody should who is going to be your first if they see you as a mark. I don’t know why people don’t believe you – I’ve seen people do this before, not believing somebody else is a virgin. I think that says more about the person suspect of the virgin than anything else – like they really want to believe it. Think about it like this: some girls tend to break each other down when the other loses weight or looks good. I think it is that same thing; like they just don’t want to believe it, so they don’t
- Cheating? This ain’t a guy thing, sweets. 40% of married women cheat or have; 60% of married men. People cheat for a million reasons and stay put for a million reasons and usually, they stay because of money or kids. I don’t know why a 22-year-old boyfriend would cheat on a girlfriend.
- You shouldn’t use time as a mechanism to gauge it. The best advice I can give you about losing your virginity is this: make sure it is with somebody that you will not look back on with regret.