And back in your dating days (obviously long gone, I know I know) what was the best way to deal with a break up? You know when you really really miss someone that you can never have again and you feel like you’ll never be whole again? I mean you probably don’t understand the feeling I mean but
I understand that feeling more you than you’d realize. So much I don’t even care to share it, which says a lot since I pretty much share everything here.
I don’t know if there is an answer. You keep breathing, I guess. That is about all you can do.
People will give you advice like “stay busy” or “go find a rebound”, but this is how I look at it:
Any emotion, like “staying busy” or inviting somebody else into your world feels like it shits on the beauty of the memory of that person you shared time with. Like you are trying to erase them from your memory, even temporarily, so that you do not have to feel the pain of their absence. I personally would rather feel the pain of their absence because it reminds me of that person. I am sap though. I spray her perfume on a pillow and listen to our songs because it makes me feel closer to her, and it is something I can live with, in my own heart. Maybe other people’s approaches are better, but mine feels more honorable, and I’d rather keep my honor and feel pain than avoid pain, and lose the feeling of that person.