Drop the guy altogether. If he wanted you, he would make it known.
If he doesn’t want to make you a centerpiece, then you shouldn’t make him one. There are a lot of people in this world. You will connect with one and you will look back at this realize you made it more ‘what you want it to be’ than what it really was.
We have all been there. It hurts as you live through it but time heals broken hearts and gives you wisdom and perspective. Hang in there.