I take it in the manner in which it is intended and do not get offended by it, but don’t take it seriously either. You have to remember, we are all a work in progress, and what you would consider offensive today, you may not a couple years ago or even weeks ago.
But I do agree with you – certain words carry a deep significance with me – specifically the ones you used as examples. There were even times where I look back, and I violated my own now existing rules on these words, by using them carelessly as I was learning things.
It seemed like everybody was “Kitten” or “Babygirl.” I now look back and think, WTF was I thinking to water down such significant words. Even my view on words like Sir, which at a time I didn’t like much, has totally changed and I see it as just respectful and courteous. In many ways, the use of words has done a full 180 since I started down the path of D/s exploration.
But like I said, we all grow. I believe the root of it is because we don’t treat these words instinctively like we would with other important phrases such as “I Love You”, because we don’t fully understand the value of them when we hear them first. It is fun to just play along, not realizing you have sort of fucked it up for that one girl that deserves a special word, or that one guy who deserves to be called “Daddy.”
And now knowing that significance, and thinking about it, it makes it all that much more special now, when I do use certain words such as Kitten, Babydoll, and Babygirl. If you get them, you can bet your ass you matter to me. If I just respect you, you’ll get honey and sweetheart, as my courtesy to you.
Thanks for the Ask, sugar tits.