Do older men have a quicker sense if the woman they're dating is "the one" even within the first few weeks if it's going really well?
Well, there are two things here that I should address.
(1) The perception of “The One” and (2) older vs younger men.
First, (1) the assumption that there is “The One” is probably a toxic concept to hold onto. Sociologists and psychologists have plenty of examples and articles I suggest that you read explaining why this is a bad belief. Here is a couple of them: The Atlantic and Psychology Today.
Logically, from just pure mathematics alone, it is a silly concept and probably limits your ability to move on when things fall apart and your ability to repair things when you want to give up.
I can say this, however – in my own life – I still “feel” that soulmate feeling, no matter how logically dumb I know it is. I “feel” that there is “a single person” above all others, a “soulmate” or a “the one”, whom I connect with. Whom she above everyone else satisfies my needs or a least more of my needs in a partner than another person ever has come close to.
What I mean by that is: yeah, she may not be able to sit and talk with me about the I-formation being run in a 4th and short goalline situation up against a 4/3 defense, but she and I can talk about 95% of what is important to me, and I probably can chime in on most of what matters to her.
The way we converse is respectful, she is caring, warm-hearted, intelligent, thoughtful, sexy, submissive, and just an all-around amazing person. The passion is there at the highest levels I’ve ever known; the chemistry, far past anything else. Vulnerability off the charts. “The one”? Well, in my opinion, the only one that matters, so yeah, I guess so.
(2) The “Older vs Younger Men” thing. Personally, ageism is just another “ism” in my opinion. However, that doesn’t mean most older men are not more perceptive, as a lot, than younger men, simply because of the volume of life experiences they have had. For example, few younger men could have written that sequence of paragraphs above, let alone thought it.
Older men should be more aware (in general) if the person they are dating is somebody worthwhile, and on top of that, there is an impetus for younger men to avoid commitment too early if they are smart. The younger you are the more likely you are to commit to the wrong person because you have not yet become the man you will become. So if you are smart and strong at a young age, you will avoid a lifelong commitment until you know what you will need for in the later years of life.
That being said, the majority of men my age (older) are still clueless when it comes to intimacy, so you will still need to have your guard up and your filters on when you seek relationships.
In short – yes, older men are more likely to spot “that one” than younger men, but not always.