Wow, that is a question, isn’t it? I believe Romantic Love and Love for your kids is Black and White; I believe compassionate Love is grey.
When you have kids or that once in a lifetime deal – it is Black and White. No doubt, it is Black and White. You can’t explain it. You know it.
You also have those people you’d kill for. You love them in a way you’d do anything for, but you don’t think realize it. This is like how you love your friends. You’d go to bat for them – but your love is conditional. If they fuck you over, they are gone and you don’t feel too bad for that loss.
So – I guess both.