No problem. Most these are not really super personal.
What triggered you into feeling as if you were dominant?
Well, my own sexual evolution was more of a gradual exploration, but if there had to be one event, it was when my lady asked if would pull her hair and slap her ass, about 10 years ago. Simultaneously my porn likes were shifting in that direction, into a more dark, aggressive, rough sex, and eventual bondage type of porn. Like anything I am curious about, I take time to read and learn. I guess she was the trigger, in hindsight.
What do you like to be called?
Daddy, as far as D/s names go. I still like Babe and Honey. Guess I am old school like that. I like Sir too but nowhere near as much as Daddy and it needs to be in the moment for it not to feel forced. I’m way too much of a sarcastic dick to take some of these other names seriously without laughing.
Age? (Just curious! (: )
Middle aged. Born in the late 70s.
Have you ever had a little/slave before?
Well, I think it’s important to understand what I think of as Dd/lg (Daddy Dom / Little Girl) and M/s (Master/slave), which are unique blends of D/s. DD/LG includes a parental role and a childlike role, often incorporating bedtime stories, stuffed animals, pacifiers, spankings, less often diapers, and not always sex. On DD/LG, no that is just not for me personally, minus the spankings part. More power to people who like that; I’m not here to cast any judgement on people. If it’s good for them then that is great, it’s just not for me.
On Master/slave, the dynamic is closer to what I have and like, but the M/s type of D/s is usually defined by instead of love being the core binding value, service and obedience is. Like I said – this is how I see it so don’t get all pissy when your M/s shit doesn’t fit this definition. Moving on, sometimes there is a contract. The Master usually engages into somewhat extensive slave training of the sub, which can be anything like caging, spanking, or a ton of things, but deprivation of something is always there and usually a pain stimulus. I love incorporating some of these things for sure, but I am a romantic and nothing can ever replace love and intimacy for me. D/s for me must include the “real, unfiltered version of her”, and roles, whether it be DDLG, M/s, or Pet Play, always seem to get in the way of that. Hence I don’t go full Master/slave mode in my relationship either, but the sex is very similar in some ways (bondage, spanking, etc).
I’m not one to really bring roles much into the relationship itself. It’s very obvious to anyone around and stated by her without prompt, every day, who is steering this ship. I don’t want a role defined to seem in charge; I already am. There is no mistaking it. I like equal respect and footing in life, that is relinquished by her in bed. My lady is a submissive one through and through, no doubt. Our sex includes what you read about on this blog. Any details on that would be too personal.
Have a beautiful weekend.