And the world’s most hideous diagram pays us a visit again…
So, two things really: your mind and body. I am going to write this as if he or other guys were reading it.
For your body, (1) how long he lasts really should not matter all that much if he knocks it out of the park with the foreplay. I am sure if you came ten times, you’d not care of he blew his load in 5 minutes. So first things first…I’m the realest, gonna have to drop this and let the whole world feel it, though I am no longer in the Murda Bizness…sorry, had to channel my inner Iggy Azalea for a moment. Okay, glad I got that out. So, anyways, back on point. First things first, he needs to know your anatomy, so he can get you those multiple orgasms and you won’t care if he cums in 10 seconds. So, maybe introduce him to this post or a few other Asks that cover the same topic. 5 places he should know well, in this order if I were teaching a class: (a) Clitors, (b) G Spot, © A Spot, (d) O Spot, and (e) the inner back wall of your anus, adjacent your O spot.
This part I am writing as of to him: Clit – not all that complicated. Keep it wet, rub in firm circles, and soon you have a very happy girl. That easy. Just be passionate and all else will be fine. The G spot, not hard to find either and once you get this magic down, now bring the clit back in and you are now in the top 10% of lovers she has ever had. Cervix is deep and in the back and top and bottom or anywhere near it will make a woman crawl out of her skin; now if you really get good, you can work her Cervix, G, and clit – all with one hand. Yeah, for real. Then you still have a hand free and your mouth. I suggest you watch Jason Sudeikis do a demonstration on a snapple bottle in Sleeping With Other People – it’s hilarious. “Let the Drummer Get Wicked”.
Now for the more complicate part – her mind. This takes maturity and I can’t teach a person how to give a fuck about his woman’s needs. He needs to understand your wants and needs and care about them. If you are submissive, I suggest he do some reading and really find out that he will enjoy a higher level of intimacy, assuming he naturally wants to be a Dom, but that is not for everyone. Maybe he is just a Top (a Dom in physical, non-emotional sense), or maybe he is not either. No matter what it is, he needs to care about the needs of the woman he is fucking. Sounds like he probably will, he just needs a road map. Nothing wrong that either. At 21, I probably needed one too. We all grow and mature and develop ourselves and he is just doing that.
Tips to last longer? I guess, but I never gave a shit how long I lasted. He could (a) wear a condom, (b) jerk off more but include edging, © male kegels (yeah, they work), and (d) be strategic in how he approaches foreplay. No blowobs until he has fucked you.
Now I have approaching 10K followers yet not one has Photoshop or Illustrator? Would somebody please create a far less disgusting diagram for this poor girl and the rest of humanity? I reuse this one all the time and it is pretty disturbing but it is the only one that shows the 5 spots I mention good. I could do without the organs.