Sarcastic? Who, me? Hey there @redbird1979 . I guess the one thing that I’d say is a core component of this blog, and who I am, and something I wish I saw more of elsewhere, is really in the title itself in some ways. I think too many men see being dominant as requiring you to be an asshole or something. That D/s means appearing mean and cruel towards a person’s heart, so that they can carry some dark and mysterious fake persona or some lame shit like that. To me, that is the part I see as being something worth taking away. That you can still care and love somebody and be their Dom; personally I can’t see any other way to do it and I don’t ever want to know that feeling of being in a D/s dynamic with a person I don’t genuinely care about and am soft-hearted for.