Good evening, dear Anon ?
My concept of Love? Well, I am sure you could dive deep into my inner monologue on the topic if you checked the #love tag, but I will try to answer your question the best I can.
I recall when I was in college I took a sociology class on Intimate Relationships and at the time, the commonly accepted idea of “love” among sociologists, or at least the blowhards that wrote my book, was that there were two types of “love”: (a) Romantic Love and (b) Compassionate Love.
Romantic Love was something where you are essentially head over heels over a person, not quite seeing people with clarity and with rose-colored glasses, but you’d eventually graduate from that into Compassionate Love, OR the relationship would fail to progress and it would end. Compassionate love was more of a realistic, yet less intense feeling. Basically – in laymen, it is the difference between seeing two people who are “new” to a couple of 10 years.
But fortunately for me, I think sociologists are full-of-shit theorists half the time just aching for a paycheck so they yap yap yap.
Personally, I believe you can have a very realistic and responsible view of a person you are in love with at any point in time in the relationship, see them for all their faults, recognize flaws, and still be head over heels for them, and it doesn’t ever have to end. I’ve seen couples of 50 years totally in love and I know for a fact what intense love feels like and that I am not under any delusions of the person in front of me. I love her, little quirks and all, and vice versa. So in essence, sociologists are morons on this topic. Surprise surprise; they are the scientists who are bad at math, after all.
In my opinion – love should have a) total emotional vulnerability, b) equal reciprocation of feelings (i.e. both should give equally), and c) a real passion for each other. Respect. Friendship.
Just my two cents.
Oh yeah. Lots of butt sex too. ?