Hey TRD question have you ever met a girl who can't cum with a partner I can get myself off but nobody else can
You know, I got this question once before and I thought about this back then a bit. The fact that you can have an orgasm on your own tells me that it is not a physiological situation, such as anorgasmia, wherein you are unable to achieve orgasm at all. Some people that is the case; about 10% of women, I have read.
That is not you though. You can have an orgasm, just not with a partner.
Sure some of it can be in your head but I don’t think that it is entirely all on you. The truth of the matter is that most women have male partners that do not understand or care to understand how to make a woman achieve an orgasm.
Your question: “have you ever met a girl who can’t cum with a partner?”
Answer: Yes, and often. I am sure the comments from other women will confirm this is more common than you think.
The two women in my adult life that I have had the most sex with both have achieved orgasm with me but other men they had been with, they had not. A lot is on the guy and the relationship itself.
Do you feel you can be yourself with these guys? If you don’t, there is a mental component. After you have that part, you still have the physical element, which is this: the guy needs to know how long and fast to rub your clit, how to find your G-spot and maintain pressure there, or O-spot or A-spot, or a million other things. He needs to kiss you like he means it.
Most guys are fucking idiots here, not knowing a woman’s body; not feeling her presence, and being concerned about “just fucking” like a Neanderthal.
The 3rd element here, after mental connection and the guy’s knowledge, is his actual applied approach regarding foreplay.
A lot of guys can be great at “fucking” but if they don’t perform oral well or other foreplay, good luck getting more than maybe one or two, and that is if being nice. You can have “good sex” with no orgasm but that is because he didn’t take the time to eat your pussy and finger you.
Sorry if my GIFs are a bit tongue in cheek; the truth is, I make it about her and in turn, it far better for me anyways. I don’t understand why guys don’t get this.