Hi. I am friends with someone who is really important to me. We have lots in common & we share the same minds... But I also really care about him and every time I am with him my heart wants to fall out of my chest. How do I tell him that I care for him/how do I tell him that I have lots of feelings for him
Well, here is my take on it. Fuck conventional wisdom here – when I was younger and hooked up with girls who were friends, it never ruined the friendship.
I say, if you “share the same minds”, then he is probably feeling it too, to some degree. Just go for it.
How do you do it? Probably not by “flirting”. Guys, myself included, are usually total morons on picking up on this. We think you are just “being nice” or something. Then there are the other guys, who think everything is a flirt. I feel bad for you women; we either think you don’t want us or everyone wants us.
Anyways – I think direct communication would probably be the best method, preferably when it’s just you two hanging out, maybe with a drink in hand. Hopefully with some time and privacy to at least make out afterward.
Sorry – I got carried away with the GIFs. I love seeing women making moves on guys and it is embarrassing.