Hi there! Love your stuff, but I have to ask a question! My hubby and I are in a semi-open relationship where he's comfortable with me being with other girls, but not guys. I'm totally okay with him being with another women, but he isn't okay at all with another man even touching me. One of my fantasies is to be used my numerous of males and females, but I feel like he's too possessive. I want to respect our marriage, but I also want it to be fair. Any suggestions?
Well, I can’t really “tell you” what is right, since that is up to you and him. All I can say is what is right for me.
If it were me, I’d just let it go.
Seems like he is a pretty open guy in general, willing to allow another person into your relationship, just that there are limits that he has. We all have limits; in a relationship, the most you can do is discuss it and move on.
I tend to agree with him; no fucking way is another man touching my woman. Ain’t happening. To be honest, I am not really even open to another woman touching my woman, once push comes to shove, and I definitely am not risking the dynamic by having two girls at once for myself. Multiple partners is just not a piece of my future and that is totally okay with me.
But – we are all different and that works fine for a lot of people – so I know I am not “right”. It’s not a matter of “right vs wrong”.
I think it is a matter of what he is comfortable with. I recommend you paint the worst case scenario: that your relationship ends because of it should you move forward with it. Is it worth it?
If not, I’d just chalk it up to something that you will never see happen, like winning the lottery or seeing Texans making decent Mexican food.