You know, when it comes to D/s advice, I tend to do one of two things: (a) deflect and not answer it because I’d rather recommend you to a source that is more experienced and knowledgeable on intricate D/s topics that I am (i.e. instructor144, a good book, a forum, a magic 8 ball, etc), or of course, (b) answer it anyway when it is of a “common sense” type of thing.
This is kind of a “common sense” type of thing. I think in any new relationship, D/s or just run-of-the-mill relationships, I’d say early on it is always vital and important that the concept of “acceptable communication timing” in a relationship is discussed. Maybe 6-10 hours is normal for him at this stage of your relationship, or maybe he is, as you suspect, being insensitive, losing interest, or whatever.
The point is – you will never know unless you communicate with him. Is this “topping from the bottom” or some other D/s mumbo jumbo? No, not as you are just getting to know each other.
This is just understanding a person’s level of interest. My opinion is if you are just getting to know each other, you should – I don’t know – get to know each other, then progress into the full lifestyle D/s roles should you decide that is what you want (which not all people do). It just seems like it would be forced and dangerous to dive into full-blown D/s roles “in the relationship” before actually working out the “basics of your relationship” first.
This here – how often you communicate – that is “the basics” of a relationship.
Thank you for the Ask and Happy Friday to you, my monochromatic friend.