Hi TRD, I love reading all your posts. You have real skill as a writer. I just wanted to ask a question. I’ve seen you answer something similar but here goes nothing. So I’ve physically lost trust in my Daddy. In a sexual situation, I find myself blocking his hands and pushing him away. He gets upset and keeps trying and I don’t really know what to tell him. I think this is due in part to some personal experiences a couple months ago. I hate it but I don’t know what to do. Any advice? -MK
Thank you for your Ask, for following, for trusting me with your dilemma, and for saying I am a decent writer. I genuinely do appreciate the compliment and hopefully, I will grow as a writer and the future words will strike a chord with you and the rest of the readers.
So, onto your situation…
Well, I’m going to do my best here but some key elements seem cloudy for me and I’ll have to make assumptions, so forgive me if I get things wrong. Sorry, but I may have to “jump to conclusions”. Let me get my mat out.
You said you have lost trust, “physically”. You also said, “he gets upset and keeps trying”, which to me is pretty alarming. You also said “personal experiences ‘a couple months ago’”, and you referred to him as “Daddy”.
All of these pieces to the puzzle imply that He was the one that violated your trust, and from the words you used, I would assume it has to do with sexual consent. Now, this may be while you were implicitly against something that was happening to you, or even explicitly, such as saying ‘No’ or using your safe word but having it ignored.
Maybe I am off-base and it wasn’t him, but somebody else, but it really doesn’t matter because any man that you refer to as Daddy should not be pressuring you to do anything you are uneasy with – period.
Your trust issues don’t seem invalid. Who you are trusting with your submissive side, however, does seem troublesome.
My advice is: talk with him about the depths of your concerns and if he is indifferent to your worries, clearly he doesn’t care about you in the way a Daddy should and I’d recommend you end it.
But first, give him the opportunity to make it right, unless of course, he was the person who violated your consent originally, in which case you should dump his sorry ass for being a man with rapist traits.
If I jumped to conclusions, I apologize. Feel free to correct me if I’m off base.