Hi. I wrote in a while ago about being married for years to my husband who chooses his iPad over me. I’ve suggested counseling to him but he’s not interested as he sees nothing is wrong. I’ve been reading all of your amazing pieces written about your Kitten and it has made me realize that I deserve better. I know we are both to blame but I’ve never given up on him and never stopped trying. He obviously has so I’ve realized it’s time for me too. I worry about our kids but cannot go on this way.?
For the followers, here is the Ask you are referring to.
I am really sorry. I never will weigh in on breaking up a family, especially one I don’t know both sides to, but I will say this: I believe you are not raising kids, but raising adults.
It’s your responsibility to shape them in all ways, including how they view and navigate love and relationships. Only you know if you are doing more damage than good, but I always believe major decisions such as separation are things you should (a) exhaust all options and (b) set a date at least six months out, to work towards resolving your issues and/or planning your new future.
You need to “exhaust all your options” for your own peace of mind. You don’t want to be looking back right after a breakup ten years from now wondering, “what the fuck? Should I have tried harder?”
My heart is with you.