How do you know when the right sub for you comes along? Seems most just want online play, and not real time... Thoughts? Thank you, in advance
You know, I’ve learned a lot about “online flirting” over the past two years thanks to the navy-blue app we all are so apt to condemn in our current mood. Nevertheless, even with my piss poor attitude to the powers that be, I am still grateful for the learning curve it provided.
If I learned one thing for certain, it is this: you don’t have to settle for shit.
I’m not looking obviously if the #writings the past six months haven’t made that embarrassingly obvious that I’m head over heels for someone to the point it’s downright turned into an 80s song D/s blog, but if I were looking, I sure as fuck would be direct about my pursuit.
I’d say: “I want this, this, and this out of this relationship if it’s going to go anywhere. If that works for you, let’s explore further. It’s cool if that does not ebb with your station in life. We can be chat friends but don’t get too attached because if someone comes along willing to meet my needs, they get my attention, and you don’t. Fair warning now.”
I have no desire whatsoever, probably like you I assume, to waste my time jerking off on the phone with some person I’ll never share a real moment with. I’ve got shit to do and I can knock out an orgasm in 10 minutes on Pornhub so “thanks but no thanks” is my philosophy.
And don’t look it as “the right sub”. Most likely if you met her Tumblr in a D/s forum, she is either a sub or a woman who wishes she had those experiences.
Worry about if she is the “right person”. It’s hard enough finding someone you don’t want to cover your ears and say “la-la-la” when they start yammering on about the Real Housewives of nobody gives a shit.
If she’s never been a sub in a relationship, so what. She’s probably plenty sexual enough if she has engaged you in a chat and even has a Tumblr blog, to begin with.