Thank you for being a huge fan. I really appreciate the love that all you guys and girls show me – I genuinely mean that.
“What really, honestly, is the thing that grabs you?“ – I was being truthful. Intelligence, self-confidence, drive (not being lazy), ability to laugh, and a very big heart – that is what matters most to me. Good looks are important to me as well, but secondary at best. Besides, I find beauty in a lot of things so a middle-aged woman with wrinkles or a thick ass, even if she picks herself apart, I’d probably look at her like a Rembrandt if she had the right personality.
That being said, good men have options and your appearance is the first thing you usually get to display to a person when you meet them. So it is important to take care of yourself and try and be appealing, enough at least to not be a ‘definite no’. I think a lot of people don’t want to acknowledge that part because of the dissonance it creates when they don’t take care of themselves, and they still are lonely and looking for a man or woman.
As plenty of people have figured out in all these #orange-sky posts and my mangina-themed heartfelt posts the last 5 months or so, I am in the midst of an interesting chapter in my life, totally in love like a total idiot.
What I can say about your question that is relevant is this: even though she has all the checkboxes checked, there comes a point where it is that bond – that magic between you two – that none of that checkbox shit matters. She could reveal to me that she less one thing or another – I wouldn’t give a fuck. She could tack on 50 lbs. Still wouldn’t care, other than for her health. There is a certain thing that happens that I can’t really describe, but all those “qualities” don’t really mean shit once you get to know the heart of another person. Once you love them you really could not care about the height, if she got a joke, knows a certain topic, or whatever.