Honestly, I don’t really have enough information to go off of to develop an opinion on whether or not I think you would be a boring lover. So I apologize for any tensions and assumptions in the following paragraphs.
I would say this though. Don’t be so quick to blame yourself. Or him. Sometimes, it’s a lot less complicated than whether it’s anything about you. Maybe you are just trying to be intimate at the wrong time of day.
The fact that he passes out immediately after tells me that he’s probably exhausted from work. Maybe try to have sex in the morning or after he walks in the door. I cannot count the times I’ve not had sex when I know I wanted to because we pushed it towards the end of the day. And then, lo and behold, the 60 or 70 hours of work that preceded catches up to me and I am wiped out and I never end up pulling the hair that I wanted to. I’ve gotten a lot better and I seize the moment when I have the urge now, and for some reason, I have the urge all the time. Could be the fact that strange women tell me their pussies are wet. But I digress.
That all being said, I wouldn’t dismiss the idea either that you could stand to improve In bed. As well as him. Both of you guys, and everyone else, regardless of whether it’s sex, or cooking, or being a parent, or working, or anything in life, should always be seeking to improve and never be content with where you were at. I eat pussy like a fucking rockstar right now. Next year, I’ll be a fucking King. The year after that, a fucking god. Explore w him. Communicate. Try new shit. Step outside your zone. Keep on trying new stuff.
What you can do? Eye contact is a must. Words. Hearing “oh fuck. fuck my ass, please Daddy” can wipe me out. Being vocal in general, it’s just absolutely fucking sexy. Try different places. Fuck in the kitchen in the middle of the day. Give him head on the freeway. Ask him to put his fingers inside you when you guys are at the grocery store.
And I hate to sound shallow, but for the love of God, when did it start being OK for women to not care about the way they look. Tumblr just perpetuates this shit, too, With women patting each other on the back relentlessly as they scarf down a ton of food and don’t get off their ass and do anything.
I like curves, and my idea of what is acceptable is probably far thicker than what most women find acceptable, so I am not really saying weight or se, but how about a little makeup, every single day, your hair done, matching bra and panties or sexy lingerie. Do something to tell me that you give a fuck about the way you look.
Women need to understand that we are not being shallow. This is how our brains are structured to work. We are visual creatures and we get aroused when we see something we find attractive. Trying to convince myself that somebody looks well put together when they look a natural disaster refugee just makes me feel like I’m lying to myself. I don’t want to feel like shit at the beginning of being intimate.
It should go without saying though, that you absolutely need to have a bond or the attempts are futile. If you think giving yourself even more to a man in a sexual way is going to repair the holes in your relationship, all it is going to do is fuck your head up. If he doesn’t appreciate you, find someone else who does. It’s that simple. Life is just too short to try to force something where it’s not.
Like I said, I don’t know enough about your situation to really know where you’re at. So I may be way off base here.
A lot of what I said is spoken in generalities assuming other people will read it and I fully expect that some of this does not apply to you at all.