I was the one who was abused in the past! First thank you so much for your answer the link helped.. sadly I am a magnet to abusive guys.. I will read the book too.. just wanted to thank you that’s all..
Glad I could help and I am glad you are on the lookout now for these kinds of guys. Don’t ever convince yourself it is you, either. There is not a thing in the world that could make me personally behave abusively towards a woman, so don’t convince yourself you “did something” to bring it out.
Some people are just wired like bad guys and they will most likely stay like that. The best thing you can do is cut them out of your life when you have the chance.