Ask: I’m 19 & a virgin. My friend & I tried to have sex the other day, but it hurt way too much to continue… I was really turned on, so I don’t feel like that’s the problem. I’m not sure what to do about it! Any advice on how to make it hurt less?
Oh fuck. I am giving sex advice to a virgin. Somebody punch me in the throat.
This is dangerous territory. Honestly when I lost my virginity I remember having a similar experience – not knowing how to ‘stick it in’. After probably an hour she climbed on and rode me.
I remember it not being wet but I didn’t know any better. I guess trying to stick a dick in for an hour like a total moron and never knowing shit about making a girl wet was pretty dumb. But I was 15. Whatever. I should have been playing ninja or something outside instead of fucking but I was a horny idiot and she was hot as hell and DTF and I had the house to myself.
My real question – do you really want your first time to be with a friend? Not criticizing it. Who knows? Maybe mine should have been too. I know I fucked her head up when I dumped her 3 months later after a summer of fucking every day. Maybe she should have learned how to have a conversation. Eh. What a dick I am.
Still – the emotional part should be considered before you go and have sex though. It will change things with him. I guarantee it.
Well. Back to the sex talk. A foolproof stick it in method is this: Keep it wet, lips too. Spread em. Climb on and guide it in and you are home free. Nice and slow.
God. I feel a fucking creep. Still. You are 19, plenty old enough to make your own decisions, and you asked. Wear protection. Seriously. You don’t want to be another statistic.