I’m not proud to say I’m sexting a married man. He’s a great listener and amazing sexter but I feel so guilty for being there instead of his wife. I want to break it off. How can I without being rude?
You know, there is another blogger who has a D/s advice column and somebody brought up something like this months ago and I really liked his response, which was: “I don’t judge people. I don’t know what it is like to be in their lives or walk a day in their shoes.”
I don’t know anything about this guy, you, his wife, or what their arrangement is like, so I’m not even going to dive into that. I will just acknowledge the part that you said that matters: “I want to break it off. How can I without being rude?”
You want to break it off, so just do it. Don’t worry too much if you are perceived “rude”? You can be nice and he may perceive you as rude, or you can be mean, and he may not get it.
My point is: you are ending it – just say “it’s over” and you don’t have to elaborate too much. The “why” part is not really relevant in the end. “Hey, guy. I don’t feel good about doing this anymore. I wish you the best of luck. Have a nice life.” Short and sweet. Move on. He will too.
My guess is, he will not care all that much if you are just two sexting pen pals. He may even say it was a “mutual dumping”.