I recently was clued in on a woman named Esther Perel, a relationship therapist who has some very interesting conclusions on your dimenna, as well as everyone who will be in a relationship in their lives.
I believe the more you watch her TEDTalks, Youtube videos, read her books, blog, etc, she will inspire in you a better understanding that will help you find the satisfactory answer for this lifelong question you will have. It will, at minimum, help you navigate a very complex question with more information.
For example, on finding a perfect person, she says:
This idea of finding “The One” is problematic for relationships. The paradox of choice creates a real sense of anxiety for people looking to find a long-term partner. The expectations of one person to satisfy all of our many emotional, physical, and spiritual needs is a tall order for one individual.
Perhaps, instead of looking for a person who checks all the boxes, focus on a person with whom you can imagine yourself writing a story with that entails edits and revisions. As a reminder, there are no perfect stories.
The clip below is 4 minutes long. I suggest that you give it a watch.
Here are some other good ones, that are much longer than the 4 minute clip above.
Side note: Is it totally wrong that I am thinking “yeah yeah Esther, I get what you are saying, but come on toots…do you have to look so fuckable in your 2015 TEDTalk?” I mean. Damn. 60 years old and hot as hell.