In your experience, does telling your partner “I love you” change the dynamic? I’m at the point where I have to tell him because it’s going to slip out, and I don’t think it’s fair to him if I keep those feelings to myself - he’s my Dom and places an emphasis on knowing what I’m feeling. But I’m terrified it’ll scare him away (I don’t think he’s quite there yet), or change our dynamic. I’m having lunch with him in an hour and so nervous ?
Well, saying “I think you are neat” can only happen so many times, but that is beside the point, I guess. Anyways…
Saying “I Love You” is such a big step, for me personally. Two people in my life have ever heard it in the relationship context, and if I could have had it one way, only one person would have ever in my entire life. I have always felt that way about that, even as a teen. There is something that implies finality in that phrase – there is no greater expressive word or set of words you can say to another person, besides maybe, ‘will you marry me?’, or ‘I do’, or maybe ‘bitch betta have my money’. Sorry. I just can’t stay serious very long.
But seriously, first off, I should ask the question – Do you love this person? If you “have to tell him because it is going to slip out”, then my suspicion is that you do love him, genuinely, because when you love somebody, you don’t question whether you should say it, but maybe if they love you back, like in your case. My only worry is the fact that you question if he will love you back, tells me you should know it in your heart that he will say the same thing in return. Also, he should be the one to utter this first. I am traditional in that sense, and all emotional big steps should be initiated by the man, in my opinion. It’s like when you ask somebody to marry you; if you actually are not sure of the outcome of the question, then you probably shouldn’t be asking.
But, that all being said. I am a romantic. And not all rules need to be followed. If you love him, take a fucking chance, honey! Say it! Just do it in person. In the right mood and setting. In a place you will be able to tell your kids about one day, in case it works out that way.
When you love someone, you want to shout it out and it is dying to get out of you. And if you truly want to be his submissive, and truly love him, then he will want to see your real emotions, including how you struggled with telling him, when you eventually do say it, so be prepared to be open and honest with him. You probably should even tell him about this ask. He should want to be your emotional guide and have full access to your heart.
Good luck and if he allows, we’d love an update. I am such a sucker for romance.