I've been struggling with something and would love your opinion on it. I have no problem attracting dominant men but the ones I do all seem to be abusive and/or narcissistic. How do I attract the good dominant guy? Someone more like you, i.e. with a good heart but who will still turn me into a puddle of girl goo? Thanks!
Well honestly I think most people who end up with abusive men and narcissistic sadists can spot the signs, but choose to ignore them. I know that sounds harsh, but there are a lot of indicators of douchebags. Is he super jealous? Does he have a good relationship or at least a mutual respect of his exes (which he should)? How does he talk about them?
Personally every single woman I have ever been with or kissed or anything, even the ones that went bad – I still look back at them as good people and value the time we shared together. Every. Single. One. Some are my friends and introduced them to their husbands.
How do you spot a Dom? That’s not that hard. How do you spot a guy who is caring and isn’t a total douche – not so easy. See if he cares about life and values a woman’s experience. Raise your expectations; don’t settle for “he doesn’t have a job right now but everything else seems OK” kinda shit. If he is a real man, he will have his act together, in every front. Just my opinion.
How do you attract a man like that? I can tell you – if I were single – the girls I would pursue would have their shit together too. They would work on themselves and it would be obvious in their life. Work on you. The good ones will see it right away.