My heart breaks for you, honey. I even spoke with my submissive about this Ask and you are getting both of our opinions, so you get the dual perspective. In fact, upon seeing this, I had to sit on it a bit.
My opinion is this: in any relationship, be it D/s, non-D/s, a friend, a parent, or anything – you should and need to be able to communicate your feelings. Being D/s doesn’t change that. If your heart is hurting and you feel distant, any decent man (you said ‘him’) would want to know this. You may not get the response you are hoping for but you should get a response and some communication is better than none. As the Dom in my own relationship, it tore me up just reading your Ask, to the point I had to communicate right away to her that should she ever feel this way, to tell me, and to make sure that she felt my love.
On her response, she gave the submissive’s perspective, which is this: “that when you love someone so much you can get lost in them and forget to love yourself. I think this is especially true for a sub – your Dom becomes your world. But you always have to love yourself for someone to love you back and sometimes to truly loving yourself that means looking at hard truths – when the answer is easy but the action is hard.”
She is an insightful one. ?