Me and my boyfriend are on a break again and this is the second time this month and it’s because he’s going through some stuff but he also isn’t letting me in and I know i need to give him space but i feel like I’m the problem cause he said he hasn’t felt whatever he’s feel in a while and idk what to do to help him and it breaks my heart knowing he’s in pain and i can’t help and I’m also in love with him and i don’t know how to tell him cause we haven’t been together that long idk what to do ?
I’m really sorry you are there. I don’t know if you are from the states but if you are, try and block out those thoughts for a day and enjoy your family today. You only get one Thanksgiving a year; make it a happy one.
Regarding your boyfriend, all you really can do is express how you feel and let it be. Personally, I’m not sure I’d put up with that myself.
Look at it like this: (1) you are in a new relationship and (2) on the second break in a month and (3) he won’t communicate with you what is actually going on. So you basically already have some issues in the relationship even if shit gets back on.
You might want to ask yourself, what do you love? Is it the idea of what you could be? To me, I’d never love a person unless I felt the same in return – all that communication stuff would be the foundation of it all.
Sometimes we want things to be what they aren’t so bad we convince ourselves that our feelings are greater than they are as a mechanism to make up for what is lacking. Once you have a real, equally reciprocated affection for a person, you may see this relationship for what it was – you hoping to get what you give.
You should never settle. You should always get what you give. It took me years to realize that myself.
Hopefully you find someone who gives what you give or this fucking guy pulls his shit together real quick and stops acting like a vagina with his “I’m going through some stuff” garbage.