Well you being dominant and you wanting him to be dominant are two totally different things from the mindset of most men, so I wouldn’t give up hope just yet.
Communication is always the key. Tell him. Tell him you want him to fuck you into the mattress and you want him to choke you and spank you and facefuck you and force orgasms on you. Then watch porn of this “with him” so he knows exactly what you want.
I can’t speak for most guys but I can speak for myself and when I finally embraced the more aggressive, masculine side to my sexual experiences, there was a sense of freedom in it. There is a good chance he will find that same freedom. We are men; it’s at core to be aggressive. He just needs to find it. Hopefully he will and you guys will fuck happily ever after.