My sub has doubts about our relationship because I'm on some apps that have been used to meet people. I try to reassure her, however, she still has doubts. I'm not always able to communicate throughout the day due to work and that has also created doubt and insecurities for her. Any advice?
Dude? Seriously? Delete the apps. Sorry for sounding simplistic, but if you are on a hookup-based app, no wonder your sub is insecure. She is right and you are wrong, you should delete it. That is kind of a no-brainer. When you say “some apps that have been used to meet people”, I am assuming they are “worse-than” Tumblr itself in this regard, so if they are “worse-than” Tumblr, they are pretty bad, like Tinder, and excuse me for sounding old, but I really don’t know other ones.
But you should do it for you, not so much for her. You will have peace of mind and you don’t want that shit anyways. You will be proud of it.
The part about work – she is just going to have to deal with that. Your commitment is to your job from nine to five and she is going to grow up.
If you stop making your day about work, soon enough you’ll have no job, and she can pay your bills, and we will see how much she wants your time ‘during the day’ then. You will resent her, be ashamed, and you will be forced to deal with your relationship in a very real, non-D/s way. Work is work. Tough shit. You can shoot her a text at lunch or something – that would be nice, but at some point, she is going to have to get real about it. You get busy at work; that is why they pay you in the first place. To stay busy.