Nervously needing advice: My online lover (turned Daddy) of 2yrs rarely talks to me about anything other than sex now. I’ve told him how much I miss the connection & conversation we had before he introduced the dynamic. I do truly enjoy being his baby girl but I miss the depth we had. He always tells me about other women and Now requests me to look online and share pictures of the kind of women that turn him on. Then he gets upset I’m insecure. Is this normal? He is very disappointed in me.
Sorry. I think one of the most amazing things yet also somewhat frustrating things with a submissive woman is her deep sense of never wanting to “disappoint”, even when to the point that she may know very well she is right on an issue.
It is not a bad thing, per se. It’s part of what makes a sub who she is, and in many ways, it is actually really beautiful.
Now, if you’ve “told him how much [you] miss the connection & conversation”, and all he wants to do is talk about other women and sex, some shit is off. You have been together 2 years so I am sure you have what it takes to work through this, but you need to speak up, set aside that “he is disappointed” stuff for a bit, and talk to him.
If he ignores your anguish, then that says more about how much he cares about you than anything else. Hopefully, that is not the case though.
Bottom line is – you gotta talk it out, over and over and over, until you can’t talk any more about it. Communication.