I honestly don’t understand why so many people don’t value their own self-worth and put up with douchbag guys or shitty women.
My opinion, since you asked, is that your friend should give this “we are what we are” dickhead one opportunity to correct his mistake – by very very clearly communicating (which I am guessing she has not done yet if they are still talking in vague terms months later). I recommend in writing because it is easy to clarify things this way.
She should lay out what her her expectations are moving forward – how she will feel respected – and what his world would look like should he choose to love her back.
Should he choose to ignore it, she should boot him in the ass and find somebody worthwhile. It is not easy finding somebody worth your time.
Somebody that will connect on every level. That shit is rare so that if you are wasting time with a guy that doesn’t have half of the ingredients well before you start feeling neglected – then what are you doing in the first place but eventually breaking down your own sense of self worth.
Love. Be loved. There is somebody out there for “your friend”. Probably hundreds of people that would connect with her on a higher level than what she gets now. It is finding ‘that one’ – which i did not always believe in – that is lesson number 2, I suppose.