Well, I don’t really see it as “anger” but “aggressive passion”, so I would say, “No” – it is not wise to be angry to a person you care about and cares about you, in general, in life.
Sure, during D/s sex there may be a sadistic component such as hands around a neck, spanking, or slapping, or for some people even more aggressive – and these look like “anger”, but my its is my belief is that all people who have intimate times together should have it grounded in respect and mutual adoration for one another.
How did I know I was a Dominant? I don’t see it like that, to be honest. Dominant is just another label. How did I know I wanted to have rough sex? It just felt right.
But the bigger question – how did I know I wanted to be there, as a Dom, emotionally and as a guide, to expose my vulnerability and her expose hers to me? To truly dive into a D/s dynamic, including the relationship parts, and not just the physical parts? Only one woman has ever brought this about in me and only one woman has that side of me. It was never a matter of choice; it was a matter of Love, respect, bonding. It was the shit books were written about.
“I have urges to take over someone and make them mine, but then I want to be taken hard and rough sometimes just to be tamed. Is it possible to be dominant towards one gender and not the other?“ – Absolutely. It is actually really common and normal. People label this as a “switch” usually, and for bisexual people, it often follows that course you are referring to, where they act differently according to the gender that they are with. Not always, but I have seen it before. A lot of women will be Dommes towards women and subs towards men, or even I have seen the inverse.