Hours and hours, post after post I am immersed in your language and intelligence, your dominance with love. I am so intrigued because, from all your writings I have read, you are very much like my husband. My hubby knows every spot, and good god how and when to use them. But I want him to get back that dominance he had over me. Somehow I feel it was my fault we lost that. A bad year, long days at work and my reluctance to submit has maybe chipped at his confidence and resulted in what is now a weird, amazing sex but could be better with his hand on my throat, state it’s in now. I want to submit but don’t know how to tell him or how to get back to the d/s relationship we had. What should I do?
Answer: it sounds like you guys already probably want to be there, but you just have a communication breakdown on sex. Rarely do people ‘be Doms’ in bed for an extended period of time, then stop.
I think you just need to talk to him about it.
You said, “Somehow I feel it was my fault we lost that” and “my reluctance to submit”; this implies that yes, you may need to take the initiative to have that conversation, but I think you guys will be fine in the end.
As far as Asks go, it sounds like you guys have very manageable issues and I think you’ll be just fine. Just remember, difficult conversations often come with a price tag, but it passes and you will be glad you had that talk eventually.
Thank you for the compliments on my writing by the way.