Thank you for the follow totally fangirling!? You write so well: concise yet detailed, emotive but still bad ass ? I understand this is your second blog. How many followers do you currently have now?
Well, Thank You, Miss Shades. I assume you commented or reblogged a post of mine, hence the following impetus, so for that comment/reblog – thank you for that as well.
I actually have had a bunch of blogs over the years. I started on Tumblr in 2015 sometime. Here is a complete list, to the best of my recollection, including the follower count when I deleted it:
First run at Tumblr…
sexy-public-nudity-scroll – 78,500 in less than a year. Deleted in summer 16′. Had to be the best public nudity porn blog out there. I only posted things that were hot. Upskirts, public flashing, road head, sex and flashing and anything risky in public or stores or cars etc. This one caught on like no other blog I have ever had. I was getting 1000 new followers a day at the end.
sexy-cosplay-scroll – ~50,000. All cosplay, well sourced, of every major cosplay artist, but mine was NSFW too, so a lot of parody porn as well.
all-my-kinks-and-perversions – this was the primary blog and was just a hodgepodge of rough sex stuff. Probably about 2-3K when it went away.
inked-and-alt-girl-scroll – the name was something like that. Lots of suicide girls or alt models. Can’t remember the count but I recall wondering why this one didn’t get more love. I liked this one a lot.
gingers-over-mary-anns – all redheads. It was another fun one. Don’t recall the count but under 10K.
cock-shock-scroll – entirely focused on the reaction of women looking at monster dicks or getting filled with dicks entirely too large. Seriously this one was just a funny one, I guess. Don’t recall the count but under 10K.
sexy-blowjob-scroll – just blowjobs and deepthroats that were hot. Don’t recall the count but under 10K.
black-chicks-white-dicks – yep. I love black women. So, this one was one of the ones I enjoyed most, along with the alt girls, public, and cosplay, and I guess gingers too. Don’t recall the count but under 10K.
Some others that I deleted along the way (i.e. Asians, Latinas, Middle Eastern/Indian/Desi, etc).
Then I deleted all of them in one fell swoop in summer 16′. Shit just felt like a job. I wasted way too much time juggling all these dumb blogs.
Then I came back in November 16′ with minimal effort, just reblogging D/s stuff, with the first blog that would actually eventually mean something to me, in which I started writing a bit, but not until months later. That was called cryings-not-a-safe-word and should get the award for the best Tumblr name ever. I loved this blog. Loved it. But it had to go. For personal reasons I just was sick of it at a point and dropped it. The writings were very short, like a few sentences, and the branding was nonexistent. When I wrote, I never was fully honest and was more concerned about drumming up follower counts than just being vulnerable and showing the community who I am on the inside. In a couple short months from mid-March 16′ through April 16′, at the time I really was writing often, I was up around 12K and then just dropped it. I still hold the blog name.
Next, for one month only, I had a new blog called hair-was-made-for-pulling, which I still cringe when I hear that name. The name was just cheesy. This is when my writing started to take form. I wrote some good shit here, and some of it I still have. In fact, a couple of posts have made its way into the-romantic-dominant, albeit revised and expanded. It was at 8K in one month.
Then at the beginning of June 2017 I started the-romantic-dominant with the goal to make the best damn written, a non-advice blog on D/s, romance, and passion in this fuckin’ place, at least from a guy. There are some I still hold in higher esteem than my own, but I am getting better with each post. My commitment to myself was – let it all out – total honesty – total vulnerability. Treat it like an anonymous journal or diary. Write what you want. Be anonymous. If people don’t like it, tough shit. Never make it about another person. Make it about what is in your heart at that very moment. My inspirations have changed as time has passed but this blog was and is by far my favorite and the only one I truly love, besides some personal side blogs not mentioned.
On TRD, I wrote from June 17′ through Mid-March 18′, but then had some personal issues arise and Tumblr was a real pain in my ass so I made a stupid rash decision, that to be honest, was driven in large part by spirituality, to walk away from this side of life. At the time it felt right and when you are a spiritual person, you do what you feel God tells you, and I did that, so I don’t feel regret over it. I back up everything every month anyway.
As I reached equilibrium, I recognized that this expression was and is forever a part of me, so I embraced it, but like all opportunities, I learned from my mistakes in prior times. I have tried to keep the interaction more professional with the community since and in the past couple of months have done so. It’s kind of hard when sexy Miss Tumblr sends you a pic of her goods, but I just let it roll off my back now. It’s just a part of the writing process now I see; show your vulnerability and passion for life, love, family, work, and separate yourself from the men they currently see and know, and you become desirable to them. You tend to garner attention but it is just a side feature of the blogging process I see and sometimes it is hot and sometimes it is not, but I appreciate the vulnerability people give me of themselves all the same. It had been something that had always been hard for me to mentally disengage from, but still, it is just a part of the blog process I see now.
When I deleted it in March, I had backed everything up through February 22nd, so I lost about 2 weeks of content, and only one post is missing that I really would love to get back. It is on somebody’s blog who may have reblogged it – it was called “A Way With Words: Part 2″ and I’d love if somebody could hunt it down and send it to me. If somebody used to follow me and reblog a lot, it is probably in their archive between February and March. The blog was almost 20K followers when I deleted it and I was growing at twice the rate I am now just due to the exponential factor – the bigger it is, the faster it grows.
I came back in mid-May and have been at it since, and will continue to stay here. The next benchmark is 10K. I cannot imagine deleting it again, because I know a lot more now about why I am here and see a future that is monetized in Kindle, ebooks, Patreon, and other social media outlets, and the bulk of those people will find those announcements here. Had I never deleted the TRD blog I’d be around 40K-50K right now if I were growing at that old rate. It will get there, I am sure. I am not really all that concerned. I write when I want to, enjoy the Asks, have some fun challenges planned, have some other things I am working on, and I really don’t take it all that seriously anymore. It’s a form of expression to me – when I feel like expressing, I do. If not, I don’t.
Keep following, liking, and reblog. If one thing is true – the newer stuff is better than the older stuff so I imagine the next year will be even better. I see the-romantic-dominant as something I will look back on, 10 years from now, as a critical part of understanding the emotions, pains, and sexuality of the women of the world at large and it will be a large part of what was the first step I took into becoming a legitimate author. When I have books on Amazon, I will look at this as a critical piece of understanding women. People like to express what they really want and need here and I am just so blessed to get to see their minds in a light that they are afraid to show elsewhere.