What would you say are some give away signs when you first meet a girl that there’s a good chance she’s submissive in your mind?
In my opinion, and I am not an expert on meeting women, this is just my opinion in my personal experience, I would say that from what I know of women who identify themselves as submissive, or even the fem dommes for that matter, they have tended to be a bit more mature in conversations.
They don’t tend to wear it on their sleeve in public so guessing is a waste of time, but if you cross into the conversation of sex, they tend to be more self-assured because they have done some exploring their sexuality, have thought about it more than then typical vanilla woman, and definitely don’t see you as a creep or weirdo for talking about it. They tend to sniff out shit a lot faster too because many have heard every line from their exploration experiences like through Tumblr or FetLife or online dating.
It’s all about the approach I’d say when venturing into that conversation. Like women I’ve worked with who I knew were mature and only friends and I had no intention of ever hooking up with, it was easy to talk about “I need to unwind and pull some hair tonight”, but I never implied it was their hair, or even wanted them to think that, cause it was just two friends shooting the shit. But the message was subtle but loud and clear: I like rough sex. Opened the door for them to talk.
I have no idea how to do it in a bar setting with some random girl, but honestly even if I were single, I wouldn’t want to have bar hookups. D/s sex involves a bond; I’d seek the bond first and then move into a relationship, then let the hair pulling begin.
Thanks for the question.