Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.
I sometimes get a question on X, Y, or Z, often starting as “Sir, …”. I’m no fan of algebra so I skip right past the variables and get to the part that never really sits well.
You see, I like “Daddy” in my dialogue because it’s the only Dom term of endearment I know, that is, well endearing. It implies trust. It implies mutual respect. It implies something better than Sir. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate Sir, but it’s lessor to me than Daddy.
Besides I’ve spent enough time with military brass – men who earned the name Sir. When I tack on some shiny bars, by all means. Until then, I’ll pass on Sir.
Mister is too “I don’t know you” and Master is too historically unnerving, so stick with Daddy and you can’t go wrong.
But that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Her names? I like Kitten, even though I don’t subscribe to pet play. For that matter, I’m not a Daddy in the DD/LG sense either. Keep your pacifiers at home. I just want a pull a woman’s hair. Not a little girl’s.
Babydoll and baby girl are up there too. Those always felt right. Those are sexy too.
I’m an asshole so don’t interpret my sarcasm as shitting on these unique blends of a D/s relationship. If that feels right for you, then you should do that because you should always do what feels right for you in your most intimate and vulnerable state. I’m just saying, for me I just like rough sex and some BDSM, bondage, and toys, on occasion.
But words do matter. So here is where I define them for me. I say “for me”, because just the idea of the word Dominant and Submissive irritates me. I am me. You are you. I’m not him. You are not her. Everyone is different so when I see these D/s blogs give lessons in shit I want to jump through my phone and kick em in their manginas.
Be happy. That’s all you need to know. That’s all you ever needed. Instructions on how to be a Daddy or Sub are retarded because they miss the point. It’s an intimate thing; not a community project.