Thanks for your input, and maybe you are right – maybe a new approach would be good and might work. I hope you are right and I am wrong, but I don’t necessarily agree that the “her being more sexually creative” is the right approach, is warranted, or more importantly, going to resolve anything.
If it were a shorter relationship, that is more likely, but 21 years? My guess is there is a lot that needs communicating and a better blowie is not the reason. Besides, most women of at least 40 years old can give a mean bj already.