I look at it like this: everything is math. If you put yourself out there enough, you will find him. He does exist, because the Blog version of me is the real version of me, and I exist.
I’ve had other blogs in the past that I dropped because in part I didn’t feel I was honest enough, even about my insecurities or judgement on what I see is dumb. Sometimes that rubs people the wrong way. I catch a lot of shit on things I say, like badmouthing online ownership, the ridiculousness of FetLife’s categories, psychological degradation, ATM, water works, men who say women are lessor and subs who like that, and plenty more. It’s just how I am: people don’t have to like it.
I am about a woman’s orgasm, above it all. That’s the bottom line. Other men are like that too. You will find him.
But you won’t if you give up. Keep looking and sniff out the dumbasses early; be honest with yourself when you see the red flags.