I am assuming you are referring to one of the few posts I’ve written about threesomes and my perspective on them – which is basically that, I’ll never likely have one, because I am never one to share and nobody I have ever been with is likely to share me. I know – a bunch of selfish girlfriends I have had in my past (poor me). I hope you sense the sarcasm. Yeah, oh well. Big deal, I guess.
So – you “recently” discovered men can fuck without feelings involved? I think you may be a little late to the game on this one, honey. The rest of this learned this sometime after we discovered about penises and vaginas but before we could watch Fast Times at Ridgemont High.
I’d venture to say that, in fact, most people – both men and women – can and have had sex for the sake of having sex, and it would be perfectly OK with them and their psyches. The majority of people have their own stories of when they had a friend with benefits, a no strings sex situation, a one night stand, or something like that. Most were not scarred from it, but look at it for what it was – just some sex, for fun.
But I do agree – love makes it so much more intense – and if there is a possibility of love, nothing should ever come ahead of that. Love with no sex is better than sex with no love, in my opinion, and it’s not even close. But sex is still good, no matter what. Two people who are grown ups about their feelings and their bodies, in my opinion, should be free to do whatever they want.